All of that is inherent in self hosting anything publicly accessible. You wouldn’t start off a reply to someone setting up openvpn with “you’re in for a world of hurt,” would you?

As someone who also has 15+ years of experience in the field and is currently infosec management, it’s not that bad. Certainly not something I’d say “you’re in for a world of hurt” about like somebody just bought a bad timeshare.

Especially if you’re not hosting production email for a company and you’re not leaving the server as an open relay, it isn’t very painful at all.

You could also be less condescending, but as you said: your call. :)

Personal preference: Jellyfin instead of plex

Some that I run that you don’t seem to have anything for:

• Lancache (if you have several gaming PCs on the network or host any kind of lan party)
• surveillance camera software e.g. shinobi
• I see grafana, but other monitoring services like icinga, librenms, etc
• Mayan EDMS - I’ve found this really helpful as anything I get in the mail, I scan in, and this makes it all searchable and retrievable.
• There’s a whole hole you could dig if you start getting into home automation (I use home assistant)