No, I dont. The machine is wayyyy overspecced for these services, 6 cores, 16 GB of ram. What isnt overspecced is is the drive, 100 GB of nvme are fast but not enough for all my projects. I have taken a lot of measures to confine the services but mastodon is pretty much the worst offender afaik. Lemmy is the most intensive ram and cpu hog it has strong spikes every hour. You dont need six cores, two would most likely suffice. I think its a ryzen 5600 but not sure atm.

Average users are one each. A couple of friends have accounts but they dont usually use them. Federations is no big issue, single user instances could definitely be done from home, large instances should def be faster than my upload at least. Moving later is a pain so I‘d plan accordingly.

Maintenance is very hard if you do it manually, which I dont. Automate backups off site so a hack cant get the backups. Dockerize to hell and back, have fail2ban. Updates will break sometimes so make yourself familiar with docker and linux if you arent, otherwise you’re screwed as are your users. I‘d probably start with a solo server, then invite friends (beta testers) and then open to the public. You will also be defederated if you just open up to the public. Legal issues notwithstanding.

I hope this makes sense. Feel free to ask follow up question.

Matrix, Lemmy, Mastodon, all on the same machine, divided by subdomains. Works flawlessly as far as I can tell.

Everything critical is on lan (docs, passwords, media), everything else is on vps (gameserver, fediverse, websites). I dont mix these as I absolutely dont want to deal with a breakin. I assume they will get in so I airgap them more or less.

I can relate. Wordpress has an intense „low tech vibe“ imo and caters to people with not much tech background while having tons of possible extensions. Absolutely not the right thing if you want simple yet individual. I have to agree with the other commenter suggesting html and css. I built a couple of these pages for companies and it really works great. No hassle, basically indestructible. Good luck

Sounds pretty interesting. I‘d like to know that as well.

I agree. Its a systemic issue. I‘ve stepped up as a mod for !opensource@lemmy.ml to combat this. Feel free to step up in other communities to help meanwhile.

The solution will probably be reputation/timelimit based or maybe federating ip bans. Bans already federate I think. At least my instance has a ton of names on the banlist although I havent banned as many people.

Sure. Because this is your first account on lemmy and you just happened to feel like shitting on this very conversation and me in particular. Best joke in the last 30 seconds. Now go away troll. Blocked.

I love this!

Sure, warping my argument ad absurdum helps you get around it.

I stand by my opinion. Dont subject your children to predatory marketing.

Have a good one.

That you‘re not interested in my opinion but want to feel superior yourself. So good luck with your superiority. Good bye. Blocked.

This is literally an alt account. A ton of these accounts is exactly 8 months old and this one especially has not made one post before.

Hate, is what it has to do with the digital age. People post their thoughts publicly and get judged very harshly for it. Sure, they‘re wrong, some are very dumb indeed but there is no reason to think of them as lesser, the same goes for any other creature.

So you havent understood what I meant yet?

Good point. If you would save your child because it is „better“ than the dog, then you should really work on your empathy. If you save it because it is more dear/close to you I completely agree. The reason I included it is the amount of devaluation people do to other people or other creatures because they only know superiority as if that helped anyone.

By that definition one could argue you should abuse your children to the maximum possible extent. This is flawed logic imo.

Besides, I‘m talking about mechanics that are borrowed from gambling. Loud „pling“ sounds, overly shiny colors and generally stuff that grabs attention.

This is not something a child needs to grow up. a parent can absolutely be expected to check games for these things before buying them. If others subject the kid to it the parent cant really do a lot but I feel like taking all responsibility isnt smart at all.

Thanks for the positive feedback. I agree fully. My wife and I are trying to not use it. Works mostly. Just when another (or multiple) have very weird things (like 10x the delivery time) we fall back.

Thats the fun thing about it. We had that and it works without another commandment. The idea of getting everything for free^tm is the problem.

You know the rules then. Make one. :)

Very good. So no arguments and your comment can be dismissed. Good bye

I get you. The idea of having to raise a child in this situation is distressing.

To make another example: watching countless hours of tv is normalized for some people. This doesnt mean it has to apply to your kids as well. You can guide the kids to play only things that fulfill a minimal requirement. You wouldn’t let them play porn games as well I suppose so just because „the others“ are allowed doesnt mean you need to allow it. Its a slippery slope for sure but our society is very dangerous for kids. The alternative is to make games be totally sanitized (minecraft bedrock for example which bans people from the game they bought if they get reported in chat and it still has microtransactions) which rids them of all originality imo.

But I digress. I can imagine how daunting this all must be. Maybe you can find other techy parents that will work on a guidance plan with you. You could even propose that on parents night (if that is a thing where you live).

Whatever. Either elaborate or leave me alone. I‘m not doing the yes-no game.